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Elaine Demeri

d. June 10, 2019

Elaine E. Demeri (nee Nitti), 80 of Charlotte, NC, formerly of Lincoln Park, NJ passed away peacefully on June 10, 2019.

Relatives and friends are kindly invited to attend a Mass of Christian Burial for Elaine at St. Matthew's Catholic Church, 8015 Ballantyne Commons Parkway, Charlotte, NC on Friday June 14, 2019 at 11 AM. Friends are invited to arrive at 10:30 AM to visit with the family prior to Mass; and are also invited to a reception immediately following the service, to be held at the church. A Memorial Mass will be celebrated for Elaine at St. Joseph's Church in Lincoln Park on Tuesday July 9 at 7 PM. Arrangements are in the care of Heritage Funeral & Cremation Services in Indian Trail, NC; 704-821-2960; and the Galante Funeral Home in Caldwell, NJ; 973-226-1801.

Born in Brooklyn, NY to the late Anthony C. and Amelia Nitti, Elaine was a true New York kid. She frequented games of the Brooklyn Dodgers with friends, and played in the streets until her parents called her in for dinner. In that very neighborhood, she met and fell in love with her husband Anthony Demeri. After graduating from Bishop McDonnell Memorial High School in 1956, Elaine and Tony married in 1959 and soon after moved with their young family to the peaceful, close-knit suburb of Lincoln Park, where they lived together for many years before moving to Indian Land, SC in 2007. She was a longtime parishioner of St. Joseph's Church in Lincoln Park, and St. Matthews's Church in Charlotte. She was also a member of the Lincoln Park Swim Club, where she and her family made many lasting friends and beautiful memories.

For many years, Elaine's main focus was raising and caring for her family, which she did with complete kindness, skill and love. She later went back to work for Sears, Co. in Wayne, NJ as an administrative assistant, and then as a pharmacist's assistant for Drug Fair in Lincoln Park. Even after returning to work, Elaine's #1 goal was to be a caregiver. She took the utmost care of her husband, children, parents and grandchildren whenever they were in need. A selfless woman frequently described as being a saint on earth, she gave everything for her family and expected nothing in return.

Elaine's home was always open to her friends and loved ones. Her grandchildren always looked forward to coming over, and for many it was their second home. Grandma would make them their favorite lunch and dinner, take them to the park and the swim club, and get them a new toy. For as long as she could, Elaine was always there, at every one of her grandchildren's' milestones. She nursed them when they were sick, was a friend when they were feeling lonesome, and helped them study when they just didn't understand. Ultimately, many of their successes can be attributed to her.

Elaine and Tony enjoyed 55 beautiful years together until his passing in 2015. She leaves to cherish her memory her loving children John Demeri and his wife Colleen, Anthony Demeri and his wife Grace, Jennifer DePinto and her husband Robert, and Ken Demeri. She will live on in the hearts of her grandchildren, all of whom she loved immensely: Frank R. Galante, Alysha Cormack and her husband Ryan, John Demeri, Josh Newman, Anthony Demeri, Olivia Demeri, Alec Demeri, Tommy Demeri, Jillian DePinto, Dean DePinto, Taryn Demeri and Chris Armijo and his wife Jessica. She was also the dear great-grandmother of Charles Cormack, and loving sister of Donald Nitti and his wife, the late Elaine. She is also survived by many loving nieces, nephews, cousins and friends.

The family would like to offer their deepest gratitude to Elaine's caregivers Sabina, Tudor, Maria and Danny; who's kindness and compassion made the final years of her life as comfortable and tranquil as could be.

In lieu of flowers, donations in her memory may be made to the Alzheimer's Association, or to St. Matthew's Catholic Church.

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Service Schedule

Past Services


Friday, June 14, 2019

10:30 - 11:00 am

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Funeral Mass

Friday, June 14, 2019

Starts at 11:00 am

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Memorial Mass

Tuesday, July 9, 2019

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